If our responsibility is to encourage, spur on, shepherd...lead people to follow Jesus, we need to do it first.
Whoever has my commandments and keeps them, he it is who loves me. And he who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I will love him and manifest myself to him.” Judas (not Iscariot) said to him, “Lord, how is it that you will manifest yourself to us, and not to the world?” Jesus answered him, “If anyone loves me, he will keep my word, and my Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him. Whoever does not love me does not keep my words. (John 14.21–24 ESV)
A Summary of the "Membership, Leadership and Discipleship" series
Leading Yourself - by Dave Kraft at theResurgence